Your wedding planning should mostly be fun and exciting, even though you might have a few stressful moments along the way.
If you’ve just embarked on your wedding planning journey in 2016, here are some tips on how to go about it.
1. Be realistic about what you can do
Planning a wedding can be a huge task. Generally speaking, the bigger the wedding, the more there is to do. All the different things you have to plan, in addition to having the rest of your life to deal with (especially if you have a very demanding full time job) can take its toll.
If you’re planning on DIYing all the decor and/or wedding favours, for example, you need to be realistic about just how much time it will take to do this. Even searching for the materials alone can be many hours of your time.
See if you have family and friends who won’t mind helping you out with your wedding planning, or consider investing in a wedding planner or stylist to make your dream day go off without a hitch.
2. The fine art of the guest list
The guest list can be one of the most stressful aspects of wedding planning for newly engaged couples. There are lots of factors at play here, including the number of people you can fit in your venue, the number of people you can afford to pay for, the people you want to be there, and the people your parents/families might be pressuring you to invite!
Have realistic expectations about your budget and who you can accommodate, and be prepared that you might have to have a few firm chats with pushy family members.
3. Stay organised
Having good organisation is key to your planning process going smoothly. Make lists of what needs to be done, and assign responsibilities to people who are helping with the wedding (e.g.: yourself, the groom, bridesmaids, mother of the bride, mother of the groom, wedding planner, best man etc.)
Keep spreadsheets and files of things like booking confirmations, receipts, RSVPs and so on. Having everything in one handy place will help you out when you really need it.
4. Accept limitations
While it’s going to be one of the most important days of your lives, you really want to avoid paying for it for years to come because you got too carried away and went overboard splurging on all the details.
Prioritise the things that you definitely have to have over the things that would be “nice to have” and junk the things that are going to blow your budget.
5. If you don’t want superstitions and traditions, don’t do them
Everyone is going to have an opinion on this, from your bestie to your nan. But at the end of the day remember it is YOUR day, so do the things that feel right for you. If that means you do a “first look” with your photographer and the groom sees you before you walk down the aisle, because that’s what YOU want to do, then do it! If you want to get ready together? Do it! Not into the “something borrowed, something blue” rituals? Junk it!
There’s no rule that says you have to follow all the old traditions, so make the day your own with zero regrets. And if you want to be traditional? That’s perfectly fine too!
6. Don’t forget to have fun!
Your wedding is about committing to each other and declaring your love for one other to the world. Try to have fun planning your wedding and don’t get too caught up in stress over linens or colour schemes. And don’t forget to have fun at your wedding as well! Take some time to savour and enjoy it.