Confiding in your girlfriends when you have a problem in your relationship is more likely to cause harm than good, according to researchers.
A recent study led by family therapist Dr Jakob Jensen from East Carolina University found that women who turned to their BFFs when their relationship was going through a rough patch were a third more likely to split up with their partner.
The findings come from a two-year long study of 67 women aged in their 20s who were asked about their romantic relationships, problems they had in them, and who they chose to discuss the problems with.
Writing in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Jensen explained that friends could just be interfering rather than lending a shoulder to cry on.
“Results suggest that discussing romantic challenges with one’s partner likely has a positive impact both immediately and over time,” he wrote.
“Many people actively involve their friends when faced with romantic problems by sharing these problems with them.
‘This strategy is understandable, as overcoming romantic challenges begins with the ability to openly discuss problems. .
‘[However], avoiding these discussions of romantic issues with a partner is linked with lower perceptions of romantic closeness and poorer romantic well-being.”
“Frequent relationship work with partners was linked with greater romantic stability, whereas frequent relationship work with friends predicted instability,” the report said.