An American blogger’s wise words about making marriage successful have gone viral on Facebook – because they’re totally relatable.

Nikki Pennington who blogs at Grief to Hope, shared the secret of her success with husband Jer who she has been with for 13 years – 11 of them married.


Jer and I have been together since we were teenagers. After thirteen years of being together and eleven years of…

Posted by Nikki Pennington on Saturday, August 19, 2017


“I know the typical responses from the ‘Don’t go to bed angry’ or the ‘Always say I love you when they leave’,” Nikki wrote.

“You guys, do you know how many times in eleven years Jer has taken residency on the couch prior to us having kids because we were mad? Do you know how many times he’s left without us saying “I love you” because kids and life. His way of saying “I love you” some mornings is letting me sleep in when he leaves and everyone is still asleep

“All the “secrets” we’ve broken them

“The secret to a long lasting marriage is there is no secret at all,” she wrote.

“It’s a get up and try again over and over every damn day. It’s hanging on tight when you are young, newly married and living on frozen dinners because it’s all you can afford. It’s staying up all night in tears with your first newborn child because you both are over tired, overwhelmed and scared to death but you are in it together. It’s counting pennies when you are young so that you can build a life together for your future family. It’s about knowing that nothing is going to turn out perfect, that your marriage won’t be a highlight reel because that’s not real life. It’s about being deep in the trenches of so many obstacles that life could throw you and getting to look over and know that you aren’t alone and that your best friend is walking it with you. It’s about knowing that you can never be prepared for the burdens you might have to help your partner carry but you do know you are willing to be there when they need rest from the burden.

Just try every single day, in the trenches and on top of the mountains don’t ever stop. Because stopping, that’s one thing that isn’t a secret, it will make you fail,” she wrote.

Her post was shared more than 83,000 times!

She’s also shared how she fell more in love with her husband once they started their family.


When I met Jer thirteen years ago I didn't know I was going to fall in love with him•In fact, I didn't even fall in…

Posted by Nikki Pennington on Wednesday, August 30, 2017